But life does not work this way. What we want out of the box we must be willing to put into the box. If I want more serenity in my life, then I must be willing to do what it takes to put serenity in the box of my life. That might mean, for example, that I must learn to stop hoarding my hateful thoughts toward someone who hurt me. Or if I want more love in my life, I must put love in the box. I must be willing to be a more loving person towards others so that love can come back to me. Or if I want to be a healthy person, I must do something that will move me toward health.
I cannot become what I am not willing to choose right now to begin to become."
-Stephen Smith, Soul Custody